My story and why I believe I can help you reach your goals:

 

During more than two decades of pastoral counseling in El Salvador, I listened to and helped men find freedom from the control of sexual sin. As a result of those experiences, I have a profound confidence that God can restore what has been lost and broken through our wrong choices when we are truly broken and will to humble ourselves and trust others to guide us.

Since 2017 I have been leading local Sexual Integrity groups.

Also since 2017, in response to a deep sense of personal call from the Lord, I have invested hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars in learning from some of the best and most experienced faith-based counselors and mentors in the area of sexual addiction recovery.

It is true that I do not personally have a long history of struggling with sexual sin. However, I struggle with an eating compulsion that has many of the same dynamics – compulsions that I do not yet fully understand 'kick into gear' before I am consciously aware of what is happening. I have needed to slow down what is happening and my intuitive responses. I also need to unlearn the way I intuitively cope with pain or feel pleasure.

In 2019 I moderated a 5-part video series in my local church to make talking about pornography and other forms of sexual sin a talk-able subject. Five groups were formed and met almost weekly with ministerial support as a result of these meetings. I led one of the groups.

I completed the training and became a Certified Sexual Integrity Mentor. I also completed the Genesis Process Training.

Since 2019 I have been doing long-distance mentoring for a fee with men who are serious about walking in freedom. Now in August 2022, I am mentoring 20 men from different areas of the United States and Canada -- all from a distance via Zoom! I have worked with 40 different men for a total of more than 800 hours of 1-on-1 mentoring. I get to have a 'front row seat'; I watch their life change up close — and I love it!

My life goal and burning desire is to influence, promote, and facilitate the creation of safe places in every Conservative Anabaptist church where men who struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors can find hope, compassion, grace, and informed understanding that supports them in the hard journey toward freedom and lasting change!

I pray that God will raise up men in every church who are eager to walk with men who struggle because they have tools to help them walk in freedom -- and that work better than using shame to compel them to hide better! I want to network with, learn from, and teach such men who are eager to help other men in their circle of influence find freedom from sexual addiction!

I guide motivated guys who want sexual freedom!