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    Thanks for stopping by to check out the resources that I have found so far! My prayer and intention is that this resource list will ​help you quickly find helpful resources from faith-based ministries whose mission is to help sexually broken people walk in freedom and victory. 

    As a Conservative Anabaptists myself, I have unapologetically tried to choose resources that I believe are most compatible with our values, doctrine, and practise. The actual order in this listing is not necessarily in order of priority.

    Disclaimer: By no means do I vouch for ALL aspects of every ministry, book, video and other resource that I mention here. If a ministry or resource is included here it is because I believe that they offer something of value to us and that we can benefit from them.


    I am aware that not everyone can invest hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars to learn about the resources available like I have.  One reason for this resource list is that if you are serious about your own recovery you can diligently work at your recovery learning from the many free resources that I point you to even if you have limited financial resources. Contact me if you have a specific area of interest; I may be able to give you a specific 'start here' resource suggestion.

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    I am aware that not everyone is financially in a healthy place. If finances is the only thing that is holding you back, please contact me. There may be other people who know about this ministry who will step forward to offer a 50% scholarship. 

    I offer a Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) on my website. It will give you a free, anonymous evaluation of the extent of your sexual compulsivity. This is the direct link. If you fill out the information and answer the 46 questions you will get an automatic email back with the 'evaluation'.


    I welcome your suggestions for additional resources. Please contact me at: HopeJourneyGuide@gmail.com and give me the information that I need to check it out. I also welcome your description and reasons why you believe this resource should be added to this list.

    In the interest of full disclosure, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you. I have provided these links for your convienence. Any link that starts with https://amzn.to is an Amazon affiliate link that makes a small contribution to the HJG ministry. 

    I have divided these resources up in these general categories: Men, and Women, Churches and Church Leaders, Tools for Sobriety, and Accountability Software.

    Enjoy!

Resources

Statistics

General Statistics: 

Covenant Eyes has compiled these statistics on pornography.


The Porn Phenomenon book printed in 2016 by Barna Research.


Anabaptist Statistics: Sattler College offers these 3 informal Anabaptist statistics that give us clues that Conservative Anabaptist Christians are not doing much better than others who surround us. Starting at about Minute 3:10 Dean Taylor comments on what they have observed.


Ministries / Websites: 

1)  Hope & Freedom / Milton Magness

i Can STOP: The 30-Day Solution to Sex Addiction Video Series here

He has many free videos on YouTube here.


2) Pure Desire, for men here.  

They offer local churches assistance to start '7 Pillars of Freedom' support groups.

The 'Sexual Integrity 101' video series is an excellent 8 week series that is very new (2020) and that offers a lot of resources.

    I enjoy their podcasts and the valuable and practical tools and ideas that they offer here. They also provide 27 practical downloadable tools here.


3) MasterClass is another resource for both men and women that charges $30 a month for access to all their resources. They have a lot of video content from the best faith-based ministries that work with sexual brokenness. Check them out here. The lessons are broken down into a short video clips with a downloadable pdf that can be filled out to help you retain the truths taught.
    The organization behind this daily sexual discipleship resource is BraveHeartsUniversity. They have put on several virtual summits on these subjects of sexual recovery that are very valuable if anyone wants to learn how to help people recover from sexual addiction. 


4) Pure Life Ministries https://www.purelifeministries.org/

Their flagship book and DVD series entitled 'At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry' The DVD series can be purchased here. You can find the link to purchase the book below in the book section.

They offer a 9 month residential treatment program and an Overcomers At-Home study series here


5) Heart to Heart Counseling Center / Dr. Doug Weiss. 

He has many books for sale on their website and a lot of free videos on YouTube here.

Warpath is his online video teaching series here:  


6) A website called Setting Captives Free. They are a Christian group that offers a Biblical perspective through an online course that confronts our addictions. I want to highlight these free courses:Weight Loss Bootcamp, Purity Boot Camp, Campo de Entrenamiento (the same Sexual Purity course in Spanish), Purity Follow-up, and Media Addiction. They offer a daily guided Bible Study where you answer essay questions and process how this truth applies to you. Years ago I worked through enough of the Weight Loss Course to know that they are Biblical. If I remember right they offer you the option of having a mentor.


7) Recovered Man by Matt Dobshuetz has a podcast that has practical and helpful aspects to it. 


Books:


Workbooks: (Lesson format with spaces to write in personal reflections and deeper insight) These can be used as a guide for group meetings:

 Seven Pillars of Freedom Workbook by Ted Roberts / Pure Desire Ministries

New Hope for Sexual Integrity by Darrell Brazell (the 6th entry in their e-store)

Faithful & True Workbook by Mark Laaser

The Walk of Repentance (a 24-week guide to personal transformation) by Steve Gallagher

Redeemed Sexuality by Andrew A. Boa


Audio / Video / Video teaching:

Conquer Series, https://puredesire.org/conquer-series-options/#

    (I understand that the producer of the video series also offers an online accountability and lessons here.)


Sexual Integrity 101 video series by Pure Desire

Here is a brief introduction to the topics covered in this video series. (Especially listen to 7:10 to 27:08)


Resources for Men

Workbooks: (Lesson format with spaces to write in personal reflections and deeper insight) These can be used as a guide for group meetings:

 Seven Pillars of Freedom Workbook by Ted Roberts / Pure Desire Ministries

New Hope for Sexual Integrity by Darrell Brazell (the 6th entry in their e-store)

Faithful & True Workbook by Mark Laaser

The Walk of Repentance (a 24-week guide to personal transformation) by Steve Gallagher

Redeemed Sexuality by Andrew A. Boa


Audio / Video / Video teaching:

Conquer Series, https://puredesire.org/conquer-series-options/#

    (I understand that the producer of the video series also offers an online accountability and lessons here.   

Sexual Integrity 101 video series by Pure Desire


    In an attempt to be more helpful I have subdivided women's resources into two sub-groups -- Betrayed Spouses or Family Members and Women who Struggle with Unwanted Sexual Behaviors (USB) / those who want greater overall sexual health. Naturally these overlap some and I may have these resources in the wrong category since this is not where I concentrate my energy and focus!

Resources for Women

Betrayed Spouses or Family members:


General Statistics: Most men who struggle are in a relationship with a spouse, or girlfriend, or as a parent. It would seem reasonable that there are as many betrayed spouses and/or family members as there are addicted men.


Anabaptist Statistics: I do not know of any available statistics -- but I DO know that wherever there are men who struggle with sexual addiction, they leave wounded and devasted wives and family in their wake. Sadly this painful eality has not been adequately acknowledged nor have we given hope and direction for where to look for resources to heal. This listing is an attempt to point women in the right direction. I dream and pray that God will call women to minister to betrayed and hurting women like He has called me to minister to men who struggle with sexual addiction.  


Ministries / Websites:

1) Hope & Freedom / Dr. Milton Magness offer resources for men who struggle and their spouses. Of special interest is his i Must Heal: Healing from Your Partner's Sex Addiction. Please note his excellent book for addicts and their betrayed spouses in the book section below.


2) Pure Desire for Women offers the Sexual Integrity 101 video series

Books, Workbooks and online Groups for women. Of special note are the

Betrayal and Beyond book, workbook, and online groups.


3) MasterClass is another resource for both men and women that charges $30 a month for access to all their resources. They have a lot of video content from the best faith-based ministries that work with sexual brokenness. The lessons are broken down into a short video clips with a downloadable pdf that can be filled out to help you retain the truths taught.

4) Pure Life Ministries 

Their flagship book and DVD series entitled 'At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry' and other resources can be purchased at their online store.

They offer a 9 month residential treatment program for men and an Overcomers At-Home for Wives program for betrayed spouses.


5) Heart to Heart Counseling Center / Dr. Doug Weiss

He has many books for sale on their website and a lot of free videos on YouTube here. Of special interest are the free Partner Betrayal Trauma Tests .


Books:


Workbooks (Lesson format with spaces to write in personal reflections):


Audio / Video / Video teaching :

i Must Heal: Healing from Your Partner's Sex Addiction


Online assessment:

Betrayal Trauma Quiz


Podcasts: 
An Interview between Michael Jon Cusick and his wife Julianne Cusick where she talks about her own betrayal trauma, Episode 94, 'A Holy and Horrible Journey'
She also talks about it publicly in Episode 17, 'Devastated, but not Destroyed'


Pure Desire Podcast 090 I caught my spouse, now what? 

When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart


Therapuetic Disclosure: A husband telling his wife about what he has done works out best when they are both guided about what and how to share. More coming later...

Women who struggle with Unwanted Sexual Behaviors or want greater overall sexual health:


General Statistics: In Christian circles it is commonly thought that between 20 and 30% of the younger women struggle with some level of sexual compulsivity. I'm not sure that it is reasonable to expect that our Conservative Anabaptists statistics are much better. 


SheRecovery compiled shocking statistics from more than 700 surveys completed by Christian women from around the web in 2014.


Covenant Eyes has compiled these resources for women who struggle with porn.


Covenant Eyes also offers an e-book, entitled New Fruit: A Woman's Guide to Porn Recovery


Listen to Shannon Ethridge speak to pastors about this reality at a Covenant Eyes webinar.


Crystal Renaud Day speaks on 'Women Too: Discussing Female Porn Addiction and Recovery at a Pastor and Leader Educational Round Table presented by Covenant Eyes.


Pure Desire, Sexual Integrity 101 video series


Books: 

90 Days to Wholeness: A Porn Addiction Recovery Devotional and Coloring Journal for Women by Crystal Renaud Day


Workbooks (Lesson format with spaces to write in personal reflections):

Betrayal and Beyond, Pure Desire

Unraveled, Pure Desire


Interviews:

Covenant Eyes interviews Crystal Renaud Day who discusses women who struggle with sexual addiction and shares from her own experience.


Video:

Mo Isom offers a free 8 part video series (It really is good! I listened to all of it!) on Sex & Jesus The Conversation Continued here. She also wrote a book, “Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot”. You can buy it here.


Short Articles:

Pornography Damaged My View of Sex: Jessica Harris’ Story 


Redeeming the Pain: Marnie’s Story

As church leaders we must speak out against the sin of viewing pornography. If we don't, what kind of message are we giving to the people who listen to us? Aren't we implying by our silence that sexual sin is not a problem among us, that we don't struggle or that we don't know what to do with those who struggle? 

   I know that at times we church leaders feel inadequate and would rather that the members under our care would just pretend that they are doing OK because we don't know how to help them.    In this short clip of a message Matt Chander models one way that church leaders can model vulnerability and make pornography a talkable subject so that those who struggle dare to talk and get help. 

Churches and Church Leaders

iRecovery: Addiction Recovery App This free smartphone app (for iPhone and Android) keeps track of how long you have been 'sober' and also gives you a way of keeping track of healthy recovery activities that you do every day.

 

https://www.drdougweiss.com/phone-app/




While you wait go to Pure Desire's list of free tools here.


More Coming Soon!

Tools to Achieve Sexual Sobriety

Accountability Software

We recommend these accountability software options for your computer and smartphone that Pure Desire lists on their website

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